conilab @coni — 25.04.2026

最近一些真实心得

Honest Notes from Lately

身份叙事、AI 工具、个人创作、长期定投、敢于定价、家庭——六件最近想清楚的事,一篇没经过 AI 润色的笔记。

Six things I've actually figured out lately — about identity, AI tools, making things, long-horizon money, charging for what you make, and family. The first piece I've shipped without polishing it through an AI.

前言

表达欲突然上来了,今天上午一直想输出点什么东西,于是产生了这篇。

综合了这段时间的经历得到的一些启发和感悟吧。如果你选择看下去,那在这里先感谢你看我的文字啦,谢谢你把这段时间的注意力留给我。

身份叙事

身份叙事是一个强大的杠杆。

今年做过最具性价比的选择就是购入了一台 MacBook。可能是我之前对 Mac 的滤镜很严重,就觉得买 Mac 就是工作学习的那一批大佬,然后当我亲自拥有之后,也不自觉的代入了这种身份中。

有这层身份在,我会很自然的觉得在 Mac 上娱乐是邪恶的,它就是纯工作和学习用的。

一个很有趣的现象——当我从 Win 本娱乐状态切换到 Mac 工作状态后,过程中没有任何阻力,从没感觉到如此自然。以前只有一台天选的时候,工作娱乐都在上面,我觉得切换的时候会有阻力;但是现在有了另一台电脑,这份摩擦直接被缩成 0。

不是鼓励大家去买 Mac,Mac 和 Win 各有优势,而且任何一笔重大消费都要慎重再慎重。

最本质的其实是身份叙事——比如我打开 Mac 后就默认了我是要工作的人,于是行为很自然的发生了。如果你没有"默认且坚信使用 Mac 就是工作的人"这个身份叙事,那么你买来也别幻想自己有很大的改变。

相反,如果你能坚持认为你是属于某一身份的人,那么电脑选择谁也就不重要了。

诚然,我目前做不到完全切割娱乐不玩游戏。那么 Mac 带给我的效率是巨大的——我可以工作完后很自然的切换到 Win 玩游戏,也可以从 Win 切换到 Mac 上工作学习。

至少这一个多月下来,我使用 Mac 的频率远大于 Win,说明本质上进(doge)。

AI 使用

有条件要上顶级的 AI。

AI 之间的差距很大,一定要去真实的体验顶级的 AI 模型是什么样的,而不是你随便体验了一个中转模型或者国内对比国外还有差距的模型,就觉得 AI 发展也就那样——这样会削弱你对 AI 工具探索的心气,很可能以后你就不会再去关注、再去主动探索新 AI 工具,新 AI 能力。

网络上有很多教学,多搜索,勤动手,总能体验到的。

如果你已经在体验最顶尖的模型,也请不要就是随便聊聊就觉得也就那样,这样也是很不好的。你必须拿这个工具去帮助你推进一个项目——无论是什么项目,出于个人兴趣还是市场需要都无所谓——只有在不断打磨一个项目中才能体会现在 AI 工具发展到什么程度,哪些是瓶颈,哪些地方发展贼强。

前段时间,我就是从 0 到 1 策划落地了一个项目,才爱上了 cc,因为我确切体会到了它强大的地方。所以务必用 AI 解决真实的问题,而不是过家家的那种玩。

题外话:在这个项目的打磨中,其实也很感谢学姐,让我从中学到了项目的反馈和迭代的重要性。

个人 IP

"做个人 IP 就是做自己。"

这句话我以前一直不理解,现在逐渐有点理解了。契机来源于我寒假随手发的两条终末地攻略,投稿到小红书。我起初压根没在意任何流量、变现之类的——我完全就是自己玩嗨了,然后顺手想想自己造的这个小玩意会不会对别人有用,就分享出去。最后确实小火了一波,两个攻略加起来快小 1w 浏览量,这也让我从终末地创作者激励计划赚了一笔小的,然后也突然理解了那些游戏攻略 up 主。

其实获得创作者激励倒是意外之喜,更重要的是这件事情激发了我对创作的热情。

再加上卡兹克大会上听罗老师说的"丰富自己的人生参数并记录",于是我就开始了我的小红书之旅。现在我就是想发啥发啥——游戏吐槽、日常分享、游戏创作、自己用 AI 好玩的瞬间,还有把以前自己写的思考沉淀转化为小红书图文。基本上是一个很随性的状态。

然后大部分帖子浏览量在三位数附近,点赞量也几乎在两位数,可是我压根也不在意,就是很纯粹的创作与记录。然后小红书创作者服务中心后台数据倒没那么惨淡,可能是发得多累积的好看。

想起视频号看到栋哥说做自媒体的心态:你发的不火,那就发 100 条、1000 条、1w 条,量变积累产生质变了说是,总有一条能爆是吧哈哈哈哈。

以前我做小红书,是强撑着自己发某一垂类的作品,这样自然会导致很累,于是做不下去,半途而废。现在随心意创作,倒是轻松愉快。

其实我也不知道自己是不是在做自媒体——现在更多的是一种"记录"状态,什么转化、求关注,我压根没在考虑。

如果你是专业做自媒体的,那么我的这个启发或许对你来说没啥用,不过也很感谢你听我唠了那么久。如果未来小红书开花了,那也算无心插柳柳成荫。

定投

持续定投。

前段时间不是美股和黄金市场都是大震荡吗,然后我之前就一直在设置定投。那段时间偶然点进去看给我吓一跳——一片绿。说实话,确实挺影响心情的。

但是,在这里我不得不感谢我之前看过的 Nick 佬的一本书《Just Keep Buying》。书里面的论证很充分,就连以前那种金融危机暴跌到最后都涨回去了,更别提这种小波动而已。

我想到这,瞬间平静了。因为我又不是短期套现,现在理财的钱走的长期三五年的,一点小波动而已——just keep buying,时间会给出答案。然后到现在,不就又涨回来了吗?那我在下跌时期的定投,是不是又给我降低了我的成本呢?

即使现在涨到狠后面可能还会下跌,但是,just keep buying

敢于定价

最近我在朋友圈宣发了自己的 Claude Code 使用手册。

起初我很焦虑和纠结一件事情:我到底要完全免费呢,还是完全收费呢,我一直拿不准。

我怕我的东西别人不认可,于是我在跟 cc 协作的时候想到了现在的计划——保持 80% 的信息开源,然后保留一些核心的给到付费人群。定价 9.9 也是我觉得对别人也就一杯咖啡的价,付费的阻力可能会更小,于是选择了在这个区间。

非常感谢私信付费的 uu。当你们来私信我的时候,我最大的满足感居然是价值感而非金钱——我觉得自己创作出来的东西被别人认可了,这种感觉带来的反馈远超收钱的那一瞬间。

你们对我的信任其实也是对我的一种 inspire。人毕竟是社会动物,人与人之间的交道其实也非常重要。你们愿意向我付费——我觉得钱反而是最次要的,更重要的是一种信任,与"自己创造出来的产品确实是别人需要的东西"那一刻的价值满足感。我觉得这种感觉对我弥足珍贵。

所以最棒的感觉永远是:在创作的过程中顺带赚钱。

再次感谢付费的大家。今天还看了看 Karpathy 的一些思考,又有很有启发的点,后续我完成好新一轮迭代,整理成经验,免费给到付费的大家。

家庭

家庭,这是所有人都绕不开的话题。

其实我小时候家里也经常发生争吵,初中的时候我是真经历过叛逆和离家出走(现在想想挺 sb 的)。但是从高中和大学之后,我家庭逐渐变得和睦起来了——一方面可能相比于初中,高中脑子成熟了不少,不会做太多啥事,虽然现在从大学回看高中,有些事情也挺傻的。

想想现在最让我的家庭关系得到改善的,其实就是我在大学所做的:从一周一次视频电话和家里,到现在三四天一次电话视频;再从什么都不跟家里人分享,到主动把自己做的事情分享给家人。

其实一开始我也很反感分享,因为觉得他们会扫兴。可背后其实没我想的那么复杂,只是老一辈人的思想更加牢固,他们会 get 不到你的点,所以你会生气。

有些行动可以教会,但有些想法我至今都无法扭转我的父母观念,那就索性不扭转——在他们能接受的频道对话。

然后你就会发现你们之间的关系越来越松弛,也感觉关系被更拉近了。所有的改变都是潜移默化的。我们不能要求改变父母,但是可以改变自己对父母的态度以及与父母的协作模式。

举几个问题问问你就知道了:

  • 你是真的想改变家庭关系,还是嘴上说说?
  • 你有专门去看过相关的书籍或者了解过这方面相关的认知吗?
  • 你真的有拼尽全力尝试但是结果不如意,还是你就只是浅浅尝试然后转头就说家庭改变不了?

我相信你心中已经有了答案。

说一个最简单的方法:多跟你的父母打视频(哪怕只是尬聊)。


写到这里已经 3000 字了。如果没记错,这应该是我少数没有经历 AI 润色直接发出来的文章了。以前我写完总会让 AI 帮我检查一下语法哪里有错误、句子是否通顺、哪个句子是否要替换更恰当的表达方式——因为这样读者读起来会更舒服,排版也更好。

但是今天突然不是很想这样做。偶尔觉得有些不通顺,也是独属于我的 moment 时刻。

Foreword

The urge to write hit out of nowhere this morning. I sat down, and this came out.

What follows is a stitched-together set of things I've been figuring out lately. If you stick around for it — thank you. Thank you for handing me this slice of your attention.

On identity narratives

The story you wrap around an object becomes its operating system.

The most efficient purchase I made this year is a MacBook. I'd had a heavy filter on Macs before owning one — Mac people were the serious-work people, the ones whose lives looked together. The moment the machine landed in my hands, I quietly slid into that identity without noticing.

Once that identity is in place, doing anything recreational on the Mac feels low-grade wrong. The machine became, by default, for work.

The strange part: switching from gaming on the Windows laptop to working on the Mac is now completely frictionless. Back when I had a single machine for both, switching modes was a small act of will every time. Two machines collapsed that friction to zero.

This isn't a buy-a-Mac pitch. Mac and Windows both have their merits, and any meaningful purchase deserves real thought. The point is the narrative. When I open the Mac, I've already silently agreed I'm a person doing work — and the behavior follows the agreement.

If you don't carry the "Mac = work mode" story, the hardware won't conjure one for you.

The flip side: if you can hold an identity firmly enough — I am the kind of person who does X — what hardware you use barely matters.

I'm not pretending I've cleanly cut games out of my life. The Mac has bought me a real productivity gain — I work, then naturally slide back to the Windows machine for games, and back to the Mac for the next round. The split has held for over a month, and Mac usage is way ahead. I'll take that as evidence I'm trending in the right direction (sort of).

On using AI

Use the best one you can get your hands on.

The gap between AI models is enormous. If you've only tried a relay-routed model, or a domestic stand-in that lags the frontier, and concluded "AI is fine, I guess" — you've quietly killed your own appetite to keep exploring. You'll stop tracking new tools, new capabilities. That loss of curiosity costs more than the price of any subscription.

There are guides everywhere. Search, hand-test, just put your hands on the real thing.

And if you are using a frontier model and only chatting idly with it, you're also missing the picture. To actually feel where the field is, you have to push the tool against a real project. Personal interest, market need, doesn't matter. The shape of an AI tool only reveals itself when you take something through it from zero to one.

A while back I planned and shipped a real project that way, and that's when I fell in love with Claude Code. I felt — concretely — what it was good at, and where the bottlenecks still were.

So: use AI on real problems, not toy ones. (And, side note — feedback from a senior collaborator on that same project taught me how much project work depends on tight iteration loops. Worth saying out loud.)

On building a thing in public

"Building a personal brand is just being yourself."

I never really got that line. Now I think I do.

The unlock came from two casual posts I made over winter break — game guides for Endfield, dropped onto Xiaohongshu. I wasn't thinking about traffic or monetization. I was just having fun, and at some point thought huh, maybe this'll be useful for someone. Posted it. Both took off — together close to 10,000 views — and I picked up a small payout from the game's creator program. The whole guide-uploader subculture suddenly made sense.

The cash was a happy surprise. The real thing was that the experience lit up my appetite to keep making.

Around the same time I picked up a piece of advice from a talk — enrich the parameters of your life and record them — and that became the angle. Now I post whatever I feel like on Xiaohongshu: game rants, daily fragments, builds, screenshots of weird AI moments, even old written reflections turned into image-and-text posts. Loose, unfocused, and I don't mind.

Most posts sit at three-digit views, two-digit likes. I genuinely don't care. Pure record-keeping. The backend dashboard actually looks fine — volume probably does the lifting.

There's a take I keep coming back to: if your post doesn't go viral, post 100. Then 1,000. Then 10,000. Quantity buys you the lottery ticket of one going viral.

The previous time I tried Xiaohongshu, I was forcing myself to stay within one niche. That's exhausting. Forcing yourself to ship within a single category is how creators burn out and quit. This time, just write what I feel, and the whole thing is light.

I'm honestly not sure if what I'm doing counts as "creator work". Right now it's closer to recording. Conversion rates, follower counts — none of that occupies me.

If you're a professional creator, none of this is news. Thanks for tolerating the ramble. If anything sprouts on Xiaohongshu down the road — that's a bonus.

On just keep buying

Keep dollar-cost averaging.

During the recent stretch when US stocks and gold were both doing their dramatic dance, I happened to glance at my account and got jolted — wall of green. Not gonna lie, the mood took a hit.

The thing that stopped the spiral was a book I'd read earlier: Nick Maggiulli's Just Keep Buying. The argument is airtight — even crashes that gut markets eventually recover. The current dips aren't even in that league.

That cooled me down instantly. I'm not selling next quarter. The money in there is on a three-to-five-year horizon. Small movements are noise. Just keep buying. Time does the rest. And — predictably — by now things have rebounded. The buys I made on the way down? They quietly lowered my cost basis.

Things will dip again. Just keep buying.

On charging for what you make

The hard part wasn't pricing it. It was admitting it had value.

I recently announced my Claude Code playbook to friends and was twisted up about pricing. Free? Paid? I couldn't decide.

What I was actually afraid of was that nobody would think it was worth anything. Working through it with Claude, I landed on the current plan — keep 80% open, gate the higher-leverage core behind a small paywall. Priced at ¥9.9 — about a coffee — to keep the friction low.

Real thanks to the people who DM'd to pay. The thing that surprised me wasn't the money. It was the feeling that someone valued what I'd made. That hit harder than any of the cash going through.

Trust is its own kind of inspire. We're social animals — those small exchanges between people matter more than the line items. The fact that someone trusted me enough to send money — that trust was the real thing. The cash was almost incidental. What mattered was the moment of recognition: this thing I made is something someone actually needed. That feeling is rare for me, and I want to remember it.

So the best version of any of this is always: earn money as a side effect of making something.

Thanks again to everyone who paid in. I've been chewing on some recent Karpathy notes — once I finish the next iteration I'll write up what I learn and ship it free to everyone on the list.

On family

Family is the topic nobody escapes.

When I was a kid, my home had its share of fights. Middle-school me went full rebellion, even ran away once (in retrospect — really dumb). Then high school and university smoothed things out. Partly: I just got less stupid. (Though looking back from now, plenty of the high-school me was also dumb.)

What's actually changed the relationship in the last few years is small, deliberate stuff I started doing in college. The cadence of weekly video calls slowly became every three or four days. The default of don't share anything with them slowly turned into actually tell them what I'm doing.

I used to resist sharing because I assumed they'd kill the vibe. The truth is simpler: an older generation has more locked-in mental models — they don't catch your point — and that's what made me angry. Not anything deeper.

Some habits I can teach them. Some worldviews I cannot move. So I stopped trying to move those.

I just talk to them on the channel they actually receive on.

And the relationship loosens. The closeness comes from somewhere different than I expected. Change is gradual, and it doesn't go in the direction I used to fantasize about. We can't demand our parents change. We can change our own posture, and the protocol we use with them.

A few honest questions to ask yourself:

  • Do you actually want to change the relationship, or is it just something you say?
  • Have you read anything serious on the topic, looked into it at all?
  • Have you genuinely exhausted what you could try — or did you make a half-hearted attempt and then declare the relationship "unchangeable"?

I think you already know the answer.

The simplest thing that works: just video-call them more. Even if it's nothing-conversation.


I've hit 3000 字 on the Chinese side, and I think this might be one of the few pieces I've shipped without putting it through an AI for a polish pass. Usually I run a sweep — fix any awkward phrasing, swap a clumsy sentence for a smoother one, tighten the rhythm — because the read becomes nicer that way.

Today I just didn't feel like it. Some of the lines may not flow cleanly. That unevenness is mine.